A manager recently mentioned that he had been researching ‘burn-out’ on the internet and believed he was suffering from most of the symptoms. His question was whether or not he should be going to the doctor and seeking help, with one possible option being medication.
Luckily, we were on an executive retreat exploring our innate well-being and the role that thought plays in how we experience life. It seemed that he was standing at a fork in the road; in one direction lay the misunderstanding that his circumstances (job, health, happiness, colleagues, etc.) were to blame for his low mental state. In which case seeking medical help might make sense to him. The other direction involved him realising the inside out nature of experience. That it was his low mental state that was responsible for his circumstances looking stressful, rather than the other way around. In which case he wouldn’t need medical intervention.
Over the next couple of days on the retreat his mind settled. He saw for himself that his feelings of stress and burn-out were coming from his thinking and not from the circumstances. Our experience is 100% created by thought, from the inside-out. He experienced this in a powerful way and several weeks on said “I have a better understanding of others and their motivations; the way I react to a situation is totally within my control; I am stronger and more resilient to outside issues; I notice and appreciate more of the world around me.”
Once we realise this for ourselves, it makes absolutely no sense to keep thinking in that stressful, burnt-out way. The switch to well-being happens as soon as we see it; it’s that powerful.
Can you choose well-being? I believe we have a choice. When our minds quieten down and we become reflective, we have the opportunity to realise that we’re standing at a cross roads. One direction keeps us trapped in revved up thinking, caught up in the drama of life. The other direction leads to a clarity, wisdom, love and connection.