Being kind to yourself

I saw this chap on the dog walk this morning and felt a great empathy for how he is obviously feeling…I thought ‘me too mate’! It’s day 14 of what is effectively a lock-down due to coronavirus. Our perspective of ‘normal’ is being challenged, and we’re having to come to terms with new ways of being.

I’ve noticed that I’m actually OK with feeling ‘fed up’ from time to time at the moment. I’m not looking around for anything to blame those feelings on. I don’t feel the need to justify feeling off balance to myself or anyone else. I’m just accepting that it is what it is.
Several people have shared with me recently how they are feeling guilty about being locked down in relative comfort while others are clearly not so lucky, either because they are still working in front-line jobs, they’ve lost their income or they are living in challenging circumstances. It seems to me that such feelings are quite reasonable and normal at the moment and we don’t need to make them mean anything more than they’re a signal of our natural compassion for others.

Indeed, what if we were to see these ‘unpleasant’ feelings as just our inner wisdom finding ways of giving us a wakeup call to listen more deeply for an insight. I’m reminded of a lovely quote from Elsie Spittle

“It’s so valuable to know that the more we trust our innate wisdom, the more we benefit from its guidance.”

I know that we all have an infinite supply of resilience, love and wisdom within us, it’s guiding us through life, even on the darkest days. I know that from time to time my personal thinking will get busy and I will get caught up in the illusion of believing that my personal thinking is true. Most of all I know to be kind to myself when this happens, and to be kind to others who similarly seem to be getting caught up in believing their own form of reality.

Our feelings change as soon as our thinking changes. One of the kindest things we can do right now is to take a rest from negative social media and news stories. We can look around and see the good in the world, it’s everywhere – it’s in the care and compassion shown by NHS staff, it’s in the patience and commitment shown by other front-line staff and it’s in the love and connection between family and friends.

“When your mind is full of negative thoughts, you automatically see and live in a negative reality.” Sydney Banks.

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