Whatever the different challenges we face in our lives, the actual outcome we seek is always the same – a return to the settled and calm feeling within, we could call it peace of mind. Sounds simple, but unfortunately, we’ve learned to believe that sometimes things on the outside need to happen in order for us to feel better on the inside. At other times we just ‘know’ that irrespective of circumstances we are deeply OK and that peace of mind is our natural state.
A raging battle is underway; it’s me against Smaug, the fire eating sugar dragon. Who will win the war? I have one great advantage over the dragon, I know his ultimate weakness. He may be powerful but he is also an illusion created in the mind.
My most recent realisation (occurred whilst hugging a teddy bear) is succinctly captured in this quote from Mexican author and philosopher Miguel Angel Ruiz: “Our brain is the factory of the emotions”. In this blog I’m exploring the similarities between the workings of our minds and a factory! When we understand how something works, we are more able to work in harmony with it.
It’s so easy to miss the simple fact that everything we take in via our senses and subsequently give meaning to, is happening inside of us. We don’t start each day with a blank sheet of paper, we already have a lifetime of beliefs and experiences which colour our individual perception of reality. I’m using the simple metaphor here of different coloured glasses to explore the potential impact that knowing this has on our experience.
I’m really clear that tools and techniques are a red herring when it comes to finding long-term solutions to any of life’s issues. My favourite example of this is the ‘diet’ when it comes to losing weight! Yes, I get that it can work for some of the people some of the time, but not for me.
What is being more than you think? Why is it so valuable to listen to who you are beyond your thinking? We could turn the question round… what would it be like to live with a deep sense of wellbeing rather than living with fear, stress and pressure? Most of us misunderstand that there is even a choice and indeed how much more productive we are when coming from this space of natural wellbeing. You can listen for this natural wellbeing in yourself and point it out in others. In doing this we are creating opportunities, uncovering potential and giving to others.
We’re hearing a lot at the moment about how mental health is suffering as a result of the pandemic. This is a great time to shift the conversation in organisations towards championing wellbeing and resilience.
How are you feeling about the announcement of a 2nd national lockdown? Personally, I’m experiencing a wide range of feelings that come and go. In this short blog I share why is it useful to reflect on how we feel?
Please consider sending a number of your presenters on our on-line Wellbeing Listener programme, in which we share how resilience and wellbeing are built into the human system and how thoughts and moods directly affect our experience of the world. It could signal a major breakthrough in consciousness if influential organisations such as yours, were to point people towards what inspires and encourages them rather than simply adding to feelings of insecurity. You would be responsible for spreading a little more sunshine rather than reinforcing the dark clouds.
As we approach a second lockdown in England, I’m noticing a kaleidoscope of sensations arising from within. My first response to the announcement on Sunday was to go for a long walk, breathe in fresh air and feel the freedom of being outside in nature. Subsequent feelings included a desire to support local shops and businesses so today we walked into town; I bought flowers, chocolates and a couple of other locally sourced treats.