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Spread a little more sunshine; an open letter to the BBC

Dear Aunty

Please consider sending a number of your presenters on our on-line Wellbeing Listener programme, in which we share how resilience and wellbeing are built into the human system and how thoughts and moods directly affect our experience of the world. It could signal a major breakthrough in consciousness if influential organisations such as yours, were to point people towards what inspires and encourages them rather than simply adding to feelings of insecurity. You would be responsible for spreading a little more sunshine rather than reinforcing the dark clouds.  

Let me give you an example, this morning I listened to one of your News presenters interviewing two young people about the challenges they are facing in the job market. The presenter focused attention away from their innate health and instead sought to reinforce their low mood by effectively ‘blaming’ the outside world for their experience. This included indicating that it was appropriate to take non-response from a recruiter as a personal attack. I imagine that not only the interviewees but much of the audience would have maintained their low mood thinking and continued to feel victimised by an ‘unfair’ world.

The interview would have been completely different had your presenter seen the resilience and wellbeing naturally available within each of us. She would have listened respectfully to each story and reflected back those elements which already highlighted their resourcefulness, such as the young lad who was keeping his career options open by casting a wider net and beginning to explore moving further afield and the young lady who had an amazing array of qualifications. She would have positively encouraged them to see rejections not as personal but as part of a number games; that there are whole new ways of looking for job these days vastly superior to the ‘old’ days; that these ‘unprecedented’ times will pass and that over the course of a career this will be remembered as a blip.

She might have used Jack’s experience, or someone like him, as a positive case study. Jack finished his degree in the 1st lockdown and has applied for roughly 200 jobs since that time. He took an unpaid temporary contract for 4 months to gain the necessary experience, and continued his search for a full-time role. As time passed, he progressed further in the recruitment process, including interviews and sitting technical tests. He didn’t take any of the rejections personally. After 8 months his approach has paid off and he starts a full-time position in video game development on Monday.   

As the national public broadcaster this is your opportunity to be part of the solution and not part of the problem. I would like to extend an invitation to you and your colleagues to attend our free 2-hour introduction to the Wellbeing Listener programme on 17th November at 10.30. Here is the link to register.

Yours Inspired and Encouraged (despite your best efforts)

P.S. Anyone reading this letter is also welcome to attend…

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A kaleidoscope of feelings is natural and healthy

As we approach a second lockdown in England, I’m noticing a kaleidoscope of sensations arising from within. My first response to the announcement on Sunday was to go for a long walk, breathe in fresh air and feel the freedom of being outside in nature. Subsequent feelings included a desire to support local shops and businesses so today we walked into town; I bought flowers, chocolates and a couple of other locally sourced treats.

I have a general sense of sadness for the disruption and suffering that people will be experiencing in the coming weeks. Intertwined in these various sensations is a sense of pride and joy that our son Jack has just managed to secure a job that he has studied and trained hard for. Also immense gratitude for my parents, as my mother turned 90 years this weekend. We weren’t able to have the family party I had imagined but we were able to celebrate with her.

When I reflect on just these last few days, I see that despite what is going on, the restrictions and inconveniences we face in ‘normal’ life on the outside, that on the inside I’m completely at ease with life. I know that from time to time I will get caught up in my thinking and temporarily lose sight of this natural equilibrium, but fundamentally I know that whatever happens it doesn’t really matter because underneath everything is the creative power that enables me to live a purposeful and meaningful life. This kaleidoscope of feelings is natural, healthy and normal. I’m not compelled to resist any of the feelings.    

If you would like to explore this further then please get in touch and I would be delighted to have a conversation with you.

Listening is at the heart of developing a deep sense of wellbeing in any community. At Inner Compass Guide the focus is on supporting and encouraging wellbeing in the community, through the understanding that everyone has this same universal, creative source of wellbeing and resilience. We are holding a free, 2-hour on-line introduction to the Listening for Wellbeing programme on 17th November.

We are delighted to support any organisation wanting to shift the focus of their conversations towards innate resilience. Now more than ever this is of critical value.

Jack & I recording podcast

Trusting Your Inner Spark

Realising your innate resilience and wellbeing is the topic of our 2nd episode in the Designed to Thrive podcast series for young people. Jack (21yrs) shares how he first became aware of the Inner Spark, a term we often use with young people to represent their innate wellbeing. He shares his own experiences of the impact this realisation has had both on his academic performance and his life generally.

The podcast

Overwhelm – the shackles of your own mind

In our first podcast for ‘Designed to Thrive for Young People’, Jack (21 years old) talks about his relationship with overwhelm. He shares how he deals with things like lockdown, exams and balancing the various aspects of life. He also talks about how easy it is to feel overwhelmed when trying to solve other people’s issues as well as your own. Something many of us can easily identify with as we take on responsibility for the happiness and wellbeing of family and friends.

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Living beyond thought, choosing to love life

What would it mean to trust that you already have innate, infinite resourcefulness and resilience to be productive, fulfilled and happy with life as it is – irrespective of circumstance? To sense that deep well of compassion, wisdom and peace within you; wouldn’t life as it is be easier? This is the meaning behind ‘living beyond thought and choosing to love life’.

What is the meaning of love?

Last night’s Casterbridge Speakers philosophy discussion explored the meaning of ‘Love’. Did you know that ‘Love’ is both a noun as well as a verb? The difference between these two uses was central to the discussion. In the sentence “my heart is full of love” – love is a noun, whilst in the sentence “I love you” – love is a verb. The problems associated with love appeared to be with the second of these two uses; acts such as domestic violence, where feelings of love and hate are confused and volatile.