Last night’s Casterbridge Speakers philosophy discussion explored the meaning of ‘Love’. Did you know that ‘Love’ is both a noun as well as a verb? The difference between these two uses was central to the discussion. In the sentence “my heart is full of love” – love is a noun, whilst in the sentence “I love you” – love is a verb. The problems associated with love appeared to be with the second of these two uses; acts such as domestic violence, where feelings of love and hate are confused and volatile.
Today I took delivery of 80 copies of my new book “More than you think”, which I’m planning to sell via my website. Why 80 specifically? Well at the beginning of this journey a friend shared an interesting statistic with me – a significant majority of authors don’t sell a hundred books. That figure has therefore become a personal target.
At last, I’m ready to launch the book out into the world. Please come to the launch party on YouTube Live. Meet the team and hear about the special launch offers that are available via the website, including access to a FREE live webinar about the Inside Out principles that I’m sharing in the book.
It is incredibly helpful to know that you can be in the flow of life as it is or you can entertain your thoughts, but not both at the same time. It is entertaining our thoughts that limits our opportunity to connect with the deeper spiritual truth of who we are. Intrigued… then come to the launch and read the book to find out how you are so much more than you think!
We go Live on Friday 10th July at 5pm, following this link
Is it true? – Such a great question to ask yourself and others, when faced with an unpleasant experience or insecure feelings. As a race we’re notoriously bad at determining the difference between something feeling real and it being true.
Depending on your experience, you may be aware of the term ‘change fatigue’. Research show that up to 70% of organisational transformation efforts fail, leading to apathy and resistance. It’s easy to become cynical, leading to assumptions that any change is ‘bad’.
There is a growing appreciation of the level of disruption being created as a result of this pandemic. It would be a missed opportunity if the focus of leadership were to be just on getting back to how it was before. In the words of Churchill: “Never let a good crisis go to waste.”
I hope you might be sufficiently intrigued to read my new book; but here is a short video to introduce what I hope will be a short series of videos over the coming days featuring snippets from the book to whet your appetite further.
Doubt is a feeling and like all feelings it comes with an intensity depending on where it falls on the continuum between belief and disbelief. For example, I may doubt my ability to engage and entertain an audience with my speech but is that doubt nudging me to do further preparation or is it so intense that it is enough to hold me back from speaking. Is the doubt I’m feeling telling me something useful or not?
At last night’s Casterbridge Speakers philosophy debate (an extra-ordinary meeting that we are holding once a month during these unusual circumstances of meeting weekly on Zoom) we explored the philosophical question of ‘doubt in these pandemic times’. Quite naturally we explored the moral issues around being a ‘good citizen’ during lockdown; what does that even mean? What is the role of government and those in the public eye in setting an example? How much does ‘group think’ and in particular the media influence what we believe or not?
We also explored the question of judging and condemning others for their actions, when they don’t comply with the new ‘rules’. We generally agreed that people who are more fearful are also more likely to fall victim to judging and condemning others. This was an observation of the impact of the current unprecedented circumstances rather than a judgement on whether or not it was right to be fearful.
Then we wondered about the impact of this pandemic on childhood development. This seemed such an enormous question and one that would almost certainly be the topic of much debate in the coming months and years.
We all gave thanks for living in Dorset, whilst recognising and appreciating the challenges faced by others less fortunate, living in cities, in close quarters and without a proper outside space to escape to. Finally, we asked the crucial question about whether or not we were troubled by doubt ourselves; whether indeed we saw it as friend or foe?
Personally, I see doubt as a friend. It’s a built-in signalling system that it’s time to reflect and wonder at my personal thinking and my state of mind. It allows for the question “is this true or not?” In recent years, as my understanding of how the mind works has deepened, I am seeing more often the illusions that are created by my thoughts. Returning to the original question of whether a speech will engage and entertain an audience. It’s a reasonable question for us as Toastmasters to ask but the intensity of the feeling accompanying it and the subsequent behaviour it leads to is only an indication of my state of mind at that moment and in no way a predictor of my future performance as a speaker.
What is doubt to you – friend or foe?
Thank you, Doug for organising and facilitating such an interesting and thought-provoking evening; it’s great to connect with friends and to stimulate the grey matter. Anyone interested in joining us can find out more at www.casterbridgespeakers.org.uk
I had my first profound realisation about how the mind works, during a Quality of Mind retreat I attended in January 2016. It was that I am not my thoughts.